I'm a teacher so if you have an attentive teacher that gives a shit, they'll notice. I noticed an ED in one of my students and he's been able to talk to me about it. I notice when my students talk about not eating, or when they talk about their weight. One student brought up her weight sadly when other students were talking about their lower weights and I felt so bad for her. I just reminded her that she was healthy and smart and taller than the lighter students so it was okay that she weighed more...that she wasn't fat or anything.

It's interesting...here you are thinking people don't notice you and here I am wondering if my students ever take what I say to heart. I feel so powerless when I see some of my students struggling. I just want to help them so they don't have to go down this path.

 

My teachers in grade 9 reported me to the school counsellor (this was years and years ago), and they watched me like a damn hawk every-time there was food around. I remember feeling very vulnerable and terrified they would find out about what I was doing. Luckily, I was a figure-skater, so could hide behind that a bit (too much training for competition season), and my mum was pretty clueless, so she convinced the counsellor I was fine, but that experience made me really paranoid about people figuring it out. Of course, now, I wish they had pushed harder and forced me to get help. I have a feeling it would have been much easier to recover if I hadn't held on to this disease for as long as I have.

 

My english teacher noticed because we talked about "healthy eating" and there was a page in our book that was about how much exercise you have to do to burn off certain food items - I nearly cried and had a light panic attack.
We talked about it and I told her that I had already talked to my parents (which was true) and that I was getting help. She was concerned but she let me be after that.

 

I'm a teacher so if you have an attentive teacher that gives a shit, they'll notice. I noticed an ED in one of my students and he's been able to talk to me about it. I notice when my students talk about not eating, or when they talk about their weight. One student brought up her weight sadly when other students were talking about their lower weights and I felt so bad for her. I just reminded her that she was healthy and smart and taller than the lighter students so it was okay that she weighed more...that she wasn't fat or anything.

It's interesting...here you are thinking people don't notice you and here I am wondering if my students ever take what I say to heart. I feel so powerless when I see some of my students struggling. I just want to help them so they don't have to go down this path.

This reply gave me a lot of perspective. You never really think about what the teachers think. And to know you were concerned and was able to tell one of your students had an ED has given me a lot of perspective. You seem like a very caring teacher. Thank you for this reply.

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My teachers in grade 9 reported me to the school counsellor (this was years and years ago), and they watched me like a damn hawk every-time there was food around. I remember feeling very vulnerable and terrified they would find out about what I was doing. Luckily, I was a figure-skater, so could hide behind that a bit (too much training for competition season), and my mum was pretty clueless, so she convinced the counsellor I was fine, but that experience made me really paranoid about people figuring it out. Of course, now, I wish they had pushed harder and forced me to get help. I have a feeling it would have been much easier to recover if I hadn't held on to this disease for as long as I have.

Oh wow, that sounds pretty terrifying :/ I am sorry that happened to you. If my teacher was to report me, I would be pretty scared out of my mind and my mum is already worried so she wouldn't hesitate to agree to getting me help. Thanks for the reply .

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This reply gave me a lot of perspective. You never really think about what the teachers think. And to know you were concerned and was able to tell one of your students had an ED has given me a lot of perspective. You seem like a very caring teacher. Thank you for this reply.

I know I'm not your teacher but if you ever need an adult to talk to about shit going on in your life, you can message me. Same goes for anyone else.

 

I haven't personally experienced anything but I know of a girl from my school who did. A few teachers found out about her bulimia through some investigating (she freaked when someone brought cake to art class, she always had her nails painted to hide discolouration even though it was against dress code, other stuff). I only know about this because I found her account on here once through an art dump thread but as far as I can tell, she hasn't been online for a few months now and she had been seeing the school counsellor so I'm hoping that she recovered.

I'm always nervous that one of my teachers will find out. I take P.E even though it's optional at this year level and we've been going over calories and exercise and stuff and I've had to leave the room a lot because of panic attacks. I think my teacher suspects something but if he asks I'll deny it. My dance teacher probably knows.

 

I had a JavaScript instructor tell me that I was too thin to be able to finish her course. She essentially threw me out of her classs.

I didn't bother to go back but I probably could have w/o her being able to stop me. It burned my ass b/c I knew very well.

 

When I was in high school most teachers treated me with "kid gloves," well atleast more so than most students. Most would never even talk about it, but I got some extensions and stuff because I would be away so often.

In saying that, I went on a school trip in year 11 (I think) and we were skiing/walking/etc. and one of the teachers a few days in had to sit with me and beg me to eat food hahahaha This happened every night and I had literally no idea what her problem was (I was 110% in denial at this point). I feel really bad because I snapped at her and really hurt her feelings, she was such a lovely woman. Although I don't even remember this, my friend who I shared a room with told me. Once we got back to school it was always really awkward with those teachers though and I didn't realise why until she told me that story... Oops

 

I know I'm not your teacher but if you ever need an adult to talk to about shit going on in your life, you can message me. Same goes for anyone else.

Thank you so much. You seem like a very nice person .

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My english teacher noticed because we talked about "healthy eating" and there was a page in our book that was about how much exercise you have to do to burn off certain food items - I nearly cried and had a light panic attack.
We talked about it and I told her that I had already talked to my parents (which was true) and that I was getting help. She was concerned but she let me be after that.

Panic attacks are the worst, I am so sorry that happened. Something similar did happen in my health class and I walked out because it was all too much and burst out crying. My teacher demanded and blackmailed me into telling her what was up. If I didn't I would receive a detention. I'm so sorry that happened man. Thanks for sharing your experience though.

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When I was in high school most teachers treated me with "kid gloves," well atleast more so than most students. Most would never even talk about it, but I got some extensions and stuff because I would be away so often.
In saying that, I went on a school trip in year 11 (I think) and we were skiing/walking/etc. and one of the teachers a few days in had to sit with me and beg me to eat food hahahaha This happened every night and I had literally no idea what her problem was (I was 110% in denial at this point). I feel really bad because I snapped at her and really hurt her feelings, she was such a lovely woman. Although I don't even remember this, my friend who I shared a room with told me. Once we got back to school it was always really awkward with those teachers though and I didn't realise why until she told me that story... Oops

Oh wow, this seems pretty harsh, the things we do without realising. I hope you're better now, thanks for sharing .

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I had a JavaScript instructor tell me that I was too thin to be able to finish her course. She essentially threw me out of her classs.

I didn't bother to go back but I probably could have w/o her being able to stop me. It burned my ass b/c I knew very well.

Oh wow, I'm sorry that happened, that teacher sounds terrible, that experience must have been very hard. I'm sorry, thank you for sharing this though!

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I haven't personally experienced anything but I know of a girl from my school who did. A few teachers found out about her bulimia through some investigating (she freaked when someone brought cake to art class, she always had her nails painted to hide discolouration even though it was against dress code, other stuff). I only know about this because I found her account on here once through an art dump thread but as far as I can tell, she hasn't been online for a few months now and she had been seeing the school counsellor so I'm hoping that she recovered.

I'm always nervous that one of my teachers will find out. I take P.E even though it's optional at this year level and we've been going over calories and exercise and stuff and I've had to leave the room a lot because of panic attacks. I think my teacher suspects something but if he asks I'll deny it. My dance teacher probably knows.

Panic attacks are so bad! I'm sorry.
Oh wow I hope that girl is okay now.
I really appreciate you sharing!

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I'm a teacher so if you have an attentive teacher that gives a shit, they'll notice. I noticed an ED in one of my students and he's been able to talk to me about it. I notice when my students talk about not eating, or when they talk about their weight. One student brought up her weight sadly when other students were talking about their lower weights and I felt so bad for her. I just reminded her that she was healthy and smart and taller than the lighter students so it was okay that she weighed more...that she wasn't fat or anything.

It's interesting...here you are thinking people don't notice you and here I am wondering if my students ever take what I say to heart. I feel so powerless when I see some of my students struggling. I just want to help them so they don't have to go down this path.

I'm currently in grad school to be a teacher and it makes me feel less alone to see another teacher with an ED. Do you worry about your students noticing? I struggle a lot with wanting to be a good role model when it comes to food, exercise, and body image.

 

Panic attacks are the worst, I am so sorry that happened. Something similar did happen in my health class and I walked out because it was all too much and burst out crying. My teacher demanded and blackmailed me into telling her what was up. If I didn't I would receive a detention. I'm so sorry that happened man. Thanks for sharing your experience though.

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That is so much worse.. Being threatened with detention is horrible.. Did you tell them? What happened after? Sorry for asking so many questions - you don't have to answer if it makes you uncomfortable

 

That is so much worse.. Being threatened with detention is horrible.. Did you tell them? What happened after? Sorry for asking so many questions - you don't have to answer if it makes you uncomfortable

I just said, it was personal. She was like," I'm waiting".
So I was like *choking back tears* Its hard for me to discuss my weight, food and stuff like that.
She was like," Restricting?"
And I just nodded.
Everything was so awkward from then on.
She is a hUGE BIATCHHH.
But trust me, it wasn't that big of a deal, your experience sounded pretty bad man. I'm still sorry that happened to you but thank you .

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I am also a teacher, and because of my own journey with EDs, I think I probably watch my students more closely when it comes to disordered attitudes about food, exercise, weight, etc...

My problem is that I hear so much questionable talk from the other adults in school, such as: one teacher makes everyone calculate calorie counts, their BMIs, and set "goals" supposedly based on "health"....another teacher talks about mental illness in a totally insensitive way (i.e.: "this is very serious and people never get better") another group of adults are doing their own diet and talking about it incessantly...

A few years ago I had a student who was curvy but fairly thin. She got bullied a lot by the "popular" girls. The following year, she was way, way thinner, and kept losing weight. I was very concerned, and went to talk to another teacher about her....and of course this adult was in total denial, "no, she's been having hormonal problems, there's nothing wrong, I talked to her and she assures me she's ok, etc..." Made me feel like a nosy drama queen for being worried.

Sure enough, by the end of the year, her parents had come in to tell us that she was IP because she had been having arrhythmia and suddenly everyone WOKE UP and saw she had anorexia.

I struggle a lot with this, and usually talk to the young person in private, to say: how are you these days, do you need anything? I don't want to violate their trust but at the same time, I get very worried when i see them suffering, and everybody around pretending it isn't happening. I can't just close my eyes and pretend, I KNOW what is happening. What is the answer?

 

I just said, it was personal. She was like," I'm waiting".
So I was like *choking back tears* Its hard for me to discuss my weight, food and stuff like that.
She was like," Restricting?"
And I just nodded.
Everything was so awkward from then on.
She is a hUGE BIATCHHH.
But trust me, it wasn't that big of a deal, your experience sounded pretty bad man. I'm still sorry that happened to you but thank you .

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Not very nice...
Thank you and I'm very sorry for what happened to you too!

 

Not very nice...
Thank you and I'm very sorry for what happened to you too!

If you ever need anyone to talk to, I will be here if you need it

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Way earlier in my ED, when I was around bmi 19 (started at like 21) I kept talking to my friend about weight loss so she talked to this other girl who was fake worrying about me (I HATED her, we used to be best friends & I had a crush on her but earlier in the year she crossed a huge line & she was always just a shady selfish bitch but i was blinded) & they confronted a teacher bc I wasn't eating as much as I used too, didn't have a snack during testing, & was reading wintergirls.

She actually started watching me & noticed I didn't eat anything for lunch. I think she lowkey thought I was purging since I spent so much time in the bathroom but I was actually just being antisocial. She didn't mention that me or my parents. Anyway, so I confronted her before shit went down & she said she legally had to confront my parents so she called my mom. I told my mom before she called & she FLIPPED. My parents eventually got over it though.

JOKES ON THEM! I'm bmi 16.5 now & while I may be eating more now (900-1000) I was eating 500 for a huge part of this summer! I get a sick pride in it. In reality, I got worse when she called my mom bc once my parents stopped watching me I went hardcore with the restriction.

I actually have an eating disorder evaluation coming up so in the end it didn't exactly work out. But, I hated the teacher, the fake friend & soon after she confronted the teacher, I cut off that friend too. A bit harsh, but that was my buisness. They didn't do anything but make it worse.I go to a new school now & im pretty sure everyone knows I'm anorexic bc I'm so skinny & I never eat lunch. I'm also ALWAYS chewing gum & having icebreakers during class. & I am WEAK AS HELL in PE & stuff. I wear a sweatshirt & sweatpants when everyone else wears a t-shirt & shorts, even when we go outside in 90 degree weather. Oh, well. It's a public school so no one really cares.

 

Oh god, I was on school camp last year and I was going through a heavy restriction period. As we all ate together in a cafeteria, all the teachers could see what the students were eating. I remember I would have a small bowl of plain low fat Greek yoghurt with peaches for breakfast, we would go to theme parks during the day and we'd eat there, I didn't have any money so I would scab a little bit of my friend's food and for dinner, I'd just have a small bowl of plain white rice and a couple of watermelon slices. It went on for a few days until one of the teachers pulled me aside and brought it up, she's a really good teacher and she asked me if anything was going on. Of course I said no. The next meal, I had the same thing and as I walked away from the serving bit to my table, I turned around to see 3 teachers whispering and staring at me like hawks. Like they full on had their heads turned and were staring at me. Another teacher confronted me about my eating and I denied everything. Also went to a water theme park and wore a bikini, I struggled really badly with self harm so I was getting lots of looks from teachers, it was the worst camp but I lost like 10kg so it was okay

 

Just so you know, guys, it is true that in most jurisdictions teachers are legally bound to tell someone if they suspect a student is in danger, mistreated, abused or in danger of harming themselves. We can actually get in trouble with our professional association (and licencing board) if something bad were to happen (i.e. a student is in crisis at school and we tell no-one) and the teacher didn't disclose it to the proper authorities.

Having said that, I don't think I would ever call the family of a student to disclose something going on. Sometimes the family is part of the problem! In my case, I usually talk to the school social worker, orientation teacher or counselor, but I try to TALK TO THE STUDENT first and get the student to agree that I'll be telling these people, so they don't feel betrayed.

 

My faavourite teacher in grade 9 also reported me to the school councellor who called my parents. I changed schools briefly then when I returned in year 11 she was still looking out for me. When I tried saying that I just didn't like eating in front of other people she went and booked a study room at lunch time for me just so that I could try to eat alone. She wa the best teacher I've ever had and cared more than my parents ever did.

 

I've good experiences and bad experiences with teachers.

Bad: When I was in year my friend caught me purging and told the teachers. They called my parents like fucking bastards and I got watched like a hawk. On the other hand, my bad for being an idiot and not realising that telling them I'd had some tea, a piece of toast, and a piece of cucumber would ring alarm bells for them. They also noticed that I always wore a jumper and thought I was self conscious, my mum hassled me over that for ages. I also wasn't allowed to be in my room with my door closed unless I was getting dressed. It sucked.

Good: This is slightly unrelated but still about a teacher. So the school counselor at my school is amazing. If youre having a shit day she lets you just talk it out. She lets you swear and be a total bitcg if you need to be. If you slip up and cut she doesn't immediatlet tell your parents (this has happened many times and she's never onced told my parents). I even eventually told her about my suicidal thoughts (also let her know I wouldn't harm myself though) and she didn't call them then either. She did find out about my calorie restriction at one point but was really nice about it. She basically let's you know when she gets concerned as like a warning I guess, she gives you a chance to work through the problem with her. So, any teachers on this thread, us students truly appreciate those people who listen but also show they can be trusted by working through the problem instead of calling the parents.